I guess the concept of boundaries and independence it’s more of a westerner ideal when the rest of the world tends to be on average more collectivist so hence the attitude.
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you shouldn’t but i appreciate you making the best of it
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who drew the bread-cineroar thbthtbthbthtb
I am still in college so live w parents over winter break and stuff but it isn’t like i invite him to my house or anything lol
We visit each other when uni is in session and all of that comes from my own money
Like my parenrs pay for college (qhich js a lot) but apart from that i only use my own money lol
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He is white
and why do they see that as an issue
VOTE: pandora
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Bc they are indian and want me to marry an indian person so i can carry on er religious stuff, customs, so friends don’t judge, etc
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neil the eel
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am i incorrect in thinking it’s just racism
neil the eel
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it is just racism
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i’m not saying it’s right but i will say it’s more complicated when you’re a person of color in a white society
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nobody hates interracial marriage like (presumably) 1st gen non-white immigrants to the US. like half of my 2nd gen friends have had their parents dislike or disapprove of a partner for being white. Like yeah there’s probably more complicated cultural context or whatever but it’s still kinda funny
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I could understand maybe “well go with an indian they share the same customs as us and there’s more cohesion and no unneccessary tension” but it’s not like you can’t solve it like adults.
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wait what
Does this include New Yorkers? 
when your kid marries a white person it feels like they’re assimilating. like, your customs are already niche and your community is small. and your grandkids might not be a part of it
ofc you can just solve it like fucking adults but
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it’s a new york minute
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like genuinely just solve it like fucking adults assuming that your grandkids will automatically default to their white identity is in itself a consequence of our racialized society and you can just, like, talk it out. i feel this very strongly as the daughter of a black and asian woman and a white man. My obaachan was ostracized for marrying my ojiichan because he was black and yet she had the same concerns with my dad (tbh they were valid this one time i grew up thinking of myself as white only)
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