…okay so we don’t know for sure they’re not into you. besides the whole asking someone else out thing
They also generally indicated with the whole asking somebody out thing that they view romance as like a strictly different object which they have a whole complex about so shrug
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Like you know what I mean. You know tutuu? Like tutuu
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nyaaaaaaaaaaa is this to mean strictly different from friendship?
Yeah pretty much
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see again this feels like important context
Like in the way many people do it’s a common view but I always find it kind of weird. Coded into my spirit lesbianly
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I found it out today!
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I didn’t know the information I’m telling you at first. The didn’t have friends before thing I learned a couple days ago and the other two I learned today
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unrelated to the person could you describe the complex
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is that the majority view
instinctually I’d say it probably is?
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meaning like
based on how people generally talk about it
if I were just going off my own feelings I’d say the opposite tho
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Generally very, like… strictly separating dating as a process from everything that is not dating. If heterosexual (this attitude more prevalent in heterosexuals for obvious reasons) views the opposite sex as like, a different kind of animal. If homosexual it’s weirder but generally builds up a person they would potentially date as an Other. Very fixated on the Rules of dating usually, like this is What You Say When. It feels like they understand a romantic relationship not as a thing you do with another person but as an item you obtain
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Generally like a lot of… failed theory of mind checks about dating? Like an inability to understand that the other person’s thoughts and desires are similar to theirs and they can figure out what to do by thinking about themselves, or about their friends.
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AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA so many people talk about romance this way
so like trying to create the optimal conditions in everything and viewing potential romantic interests very differently then you would anyone else to the point of hyperanalyzation
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Yeah. If I had to describe it in a short sentence it’s be “mentally separating ‘normal people’ and ‘potential romantic partners’”
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yeah i think this is insane. i would not want to be in a relationship with someone who i wouldn’t otherwise be able to tolerate as like. a person. or at least in a friend tier. but maybe i’m just demi
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must say as a cat who has trouble reading every now this collar person remains a mystery and it’s a mystery to whether may is talking about them right now or some other random person
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And like I’m probably at an extreme end of a spectrum where I barely make a distinction at all, largely because I am a lesbian and thus inclined by nature of Expectations Around Close Female Friendships to not really. Make a distinction. I don’t think the mindset is, like, poison, it’s common in society and presumably people have success following it, it’s just reallt foreign to me
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