like on some level it’s like having to admit to yourself that you raised a criminal, and that can feel like having to admit to having failed at being a parent
its just that in this case the “criminality” of being gay or whatever is entirely a social construct with literally no reason to exist other than prejudice
hopefully the parallel im drawing here makes sense without sounding like I’m equating the two directly
It’s a matter of the difference in commitment. Most such people who are fine with gay people in the abstract won’t go out of their way to argue with the people in their life which aren’t, they get to just be quiet when it comes u- at d-nner. -nce you have a gay kid it’s a whole ordeal for them
ye n thats fair BUT ALSO we should give people room to learn, come to terms, and change for the better with things like these
one of my biggest pet peeves about discussing these topics online is how quick internet commenters can be to completely write off people who are very likely able to be brought over with time and care
it sometimes feels like rather than attempting to build alliances the internet drives people out and i think it often makes polarization on these issues worse
For me it’s literally 700
m pretty sure tutuu has only known people who are not willing to change in any way
yes
america
I think the better framing is that Indian parents are trying to find a groom effectively based on his resume. The idea is that financial stability should come before everything else, hence the criteria.
Make your money first, and then you can figure out everything else in your life, effectively.
CV for dating my daughter?
Tbh I think a couple of years ago I got the impression that if I was gay, my parents would kinda disown me
And then my dad watched this indian show where there were a lot of idk lgbtq people and gay people in particular
And he liked genuinely cried to me 
and we had a good talk in which he said it would be difficult to accept but he would never like cut me out of his life and eventually, with enough time, he would accept me if I was gay
Idk if he remembers this even but it meant a lot to me lol
I wish the world would have more financial stability. I think people being worried 24/7 about debt doesn’t make a happy society
yeah and a lot of that is a matter of people around them also being unwilling to change
there’s a fine line to be walked and sadly there is no easy answer but in general i just think we skew a bit too much towards the aggressive online (and probably not far enough that way irl tbh)
No literally lol
My bf is getting his phd in math at a good school! And my dad was like 'well is he getting a job after that??? Why is he studying math? Etc"
Btw my dad was a math major in college
I am a math major in college!
okay but tbf wtf r u doin with a math degree urself
The unholy triad right here
(I am also a CS major)
i repeat my question LOL
Orange what is your major
I had an internship this summer which I’ll get a return from and then I’m applying to a couple of places I would take over that
