Skill issue
Itās bad too because now take forever to ask someone out
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My severe trust issues also make long term relationships difficult
imagine establishing relations with other people
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Itās weird how many people here are introverts while Iām a very extroverted person
i am incapable of receiving advances as i cannot mentally parse the idea of people being nice to me
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If a woman compliments a man we go into shock as we have to basically flip a coin as to why they were complimented
this is why i never compliment anybody except in abstract ways
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Real
Does the same not apply to a woman complimenting a woman
Smh
idk im not a woman
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no thats just gay
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WARIO
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Oh I thought u were implying it was generic
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People are always like ohhhh men get no compliments ever and we remember every compliment we ever get but for purposes of IRL I am a woman and Iām essentially the same way.
I think men see themselves as the Average Man and, like, how do I put this. People who are highly successful at performing Womanhood as the Average Woman. Your picture of Women, as a person outside of that group, will be the women you pay the most attention to, and therefore, like, will constitute, very social and attractive women.
But Iām just some guy! Regardless of performed gender! And I, like a lot of the men who make this complaint, am, like, not particularly social, not One Of The Girls, and so donāt get this alleged endless stream of compliments that people say women get. Affix āpopular and successfulā to the noun āwomenā and yeah, that group probably get more compliments than the average man, but the same is true of popular and successful men!
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Every statement made about my gender is a lie
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My gender is wolfing
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Also, the majority of casual compliments I do get (and remember forever) come from other (people performing as) women, and I definitely have to do the same thing of ācoinflip āare you hitting on meāā when complimented by a man. Thatās how gendered social circles work. Itās not as extreme as elementary school where all the boys sat together and all the girls sat together but itās still a significant effect.
Some guys speak as if this Great Compliment Disparity is the Responsibility of Women to resolve, but likeā¦ surely the solution for this is for men to more often compliment each other? You can start doing this today! Compliment strangers and acquaintances! Improve the average kindness of interaction in the world! Itās like the voting āparadoxā! You individually might not make difference but if everybody like you doesnāt, that will make a large impact. Except not even really because if you compliment your friends and acquaintances more they will notice and be more likely to compliment you back.
I dunno. More people should start breaking social norms they donāt like. Especially to be nice. I started doing this and it was awesome
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