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I think it’s like a curve which falls off. Maturity. There are a bunch of individual things and lessons to learn which are part of being a Mature Adult. And the longer you’re alive, the more time you’ve had to be put in an experience where you must learn any one given lesson. So on average being older does make you more mature. But plenty of lessons slip through the cracks in otherwise mature people or happen to get taught to a person particularly early. And plenty of people don’t learn lessons at the same rate as others and remain broadly immature for longer, and in yhe same way plenty of people happen to learn lessons at a faster rate and therefore mature faster.

So half-mature teenagers, even when equally mature, are all half-mature in different ways. Like everybody has a different specialisation in the skill tree. And kids also have a skill tree, but they’ve had less time to put in points overall so they appear less specialised, and older adults have had more time to put points into everything and become decently well-rounded. Teenagers are very extreme. At least from what I see from inside

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There is this youtuber whos grandfather wanted to be cremated, and then wanted weed to be grown in his ashes, and then for his daughter and granddaughter to smoke the weed. I DO NOT want that for me

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Like maturity certainly isn’t one trait you get homogenously better at or worse at. IMO it’s just like a bunch of responses to experiences. You will respond worse to the first job rejection letter you get than the twentieth. Some people get that first rejection letter early and some get it late. And then there’s the first romantic rejection which will come early for different people and late for different people. And all other such things.

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Oh yeah. Very eloquent way of putting it

it beeped

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Also aside from my broader thoughts on the subject of maturity. I also thought the exact same thing. Like it was like wow we really are nineteen huh

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MAY ITS DONE

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WOOOOO

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TIME TO GET FOOD POOSONING

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Flashbacks to when people called Arctic more mature than me I WILL NEVER LIVE IT THROUGH. CORE MEMORY

Obviously the relationship being incredibly undercommunicated in general was also in large part my fault, we never talked seriously about anything we were doing we just did it. Never a “what are we” discussion. The closest we got was me saying early on I wasn’t super comfortable with a formal relationship. But I also was happy with where things were and didn’t feel a need to change anything.

Obviously though it is important to be proactive as if you are not so then problems will arise in the future and be handled similarly poorly. This is a life lesson also.

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IT TASTES GOOD

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You still are friends right

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Well it was also complicated by the fact that I didn’t even want a formal relationship and felt torn probably much as they did. I was largely just seeing what happened and how I would feel in response to various things. So I didn’t even mind this outcome particularly. But again I feel their technique was poor.

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Yeah pretty much but it’s like awkward. We’ve sat at the same dinner table and said hi to each other and such and occasionally volunteered information when relevant but we’re rather distant from each other

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the scallops now taste weird

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There is some level of quiet avoidance. Which is why I’ve said I need to communicate with them more and why I’m being threatened at 6:07 PM

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Now that you arent together you should woo their hot woman friend that you said you couldnt take your eyes off to assert dominance

What

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Her words not mine :raised_hand_with_fingers_splayed: :raised_hand_with_fingers_splayed: